Hahahaha, not my favorite topic but sadly seems to be a daily staple these days, I can be wrong...
Hear me out, so, when you first meet someone, regardless, the street, the store, at work, I know, I know...work...ew. There is the First Impression. The way you are viewed, acknowledged by the other party. Then they speak. Now, this is where the games begin. I would just back myself up here to say that it may not be the intention, but it's a game, nonetheless. When you first meet someone there is an impression that you are trying to give off, "your vibe." This to me, is a game. It's the initial meeting. Are you a handworker, I don't mess around kind of person, are you a "hey, let's meet for coffee", kind of pal? This would be reflected in the way you carry yourself, your voice, your impression (dress). Then when you decide to start going out with someone, there is an initial impression that you want the other person to acknowledge, the "I'm just here for a good time," the, "here to marry, not to play" kind of vibe. I would argue that this happens in friendships, families, cliques, work, friend circles.
Let's get to my point. How many have you noticed mind games in your relationships?? Do you cut them out right away? Do you play back? I have learned to use like my last topic, my intuition in these situations. If it's a repeated offense, I recognize it, then I may depend on the day, lose my cool and play it back, long story, not today, or I would just cut it right at the bud. I get blindsided on numerous occasions, but once I recognize it, I address it. I realize that all I can do at the end of the day is take ownership of my words, my actions, my thoughts, and be direct and concise in my communication, to my best advantage. Thoughts? Gripes? Concerns?? ((In recognition to my amazing past NCMA instructor, you da best!))
8/5/22
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